I went on a road trip recently out to Arkansas and I got to thinking, man would it suck to get a flat tire or have any sort of car trouble out here. Fortunately nothing of the sort transpired, but it got me thinking about something else.
We get so upset over things like car trouble or other unexpected inconveniences - they ruin our day and our mood. On the flip side though, we rarely give thanks when things go well.
When everything goes smoothly, when we miss out on traffic or our baggage doesn’t get lost or we get tickets to that concert we really wanted to go to - we don’t celebrate.
We have this expectation that everything should always go like we planned, even though we all know life doesn’t work like that.
In the end, we all need to appreciate the good things that happen in life, just as much as we disdain the frustrating ones.
“Creativity is the quality that you bring to the activity that you are doing. It is an attitude, an inner approach - how you look at things…. Not everybody can be a painter - and there is no need also. If everybody is a painter the world will be very ugly; it will be difficult to live! And not everybody can be a dancer, and there is no need. But everybody can be creative. Whatsoever you do, if you do it joyfully, if you do it lovingly, if your act of doing is not purely economical, then it is creative. If you have something growing out of it within you, if it gives you growth, it is spiritual, it is creative, it is divine. You become more divine as you become more creative. All the religions of the world have said God is the creator. I dont know whether he is the creator or not, but one thing I know: the more creative you become, the more godly you become. When your creativity comes to a climax, when your whole life becomes creative, you live in God. So he must be the creator because people who have been creative have been closest to him. Love what you do.”— Osho
You often give advice to help someone else make decisions in difficult situations, based on your own experiences. There are two types of people who give said advice:
1. People who give advice and have clearly followed it themselves
2. People who give advice, but clearly do not follow it at all
Everyone has probably been both of these at some point in their lives and hopefully the first more often than the second, not that it really matters.
The funny things about advice is that those receiving it often don’t take your advice anyways. They may consider it and it may have some sway in their final decision, but it’s not as useful as we think.
This is simply because we primarily learn through our experiences or rather our mistakes. So until we experience the results of specific decisions ourselves, we don’t learn and we probably don’t take advice.
It makes you wonder, just how valuable advice really is…
What is the true value of a degree? BA, MBA, PhD, JD?
The more I understand how things work, I get that feeling that the major benefit of getting a degree is that it simply opens doors to opportunities that are otherwise unavailable.
When you go to an interview, the presence of your degree is just another tick in the check box of qualifications that show you belong. What’s surprising is once you get a job and start your career, the value of your degree drops dramatically. Who cares about your GPA, that you were honors, that you got a double major, what matters most at that point is your experience.
The other benefit comes from the instant credibility you earn that in some odd way shows that you are 100% qualified for your area of expertise, but does this make sense?
Just because you have a PhD you are qualified to be a professor? Just because you’re an MBA you should know how to handle finance and run a business? It seems that these degrees have allowed us to make overly general assumptions about the quality of people holding them and their capabilities.
What’s even more crazy, is that many current graduates are having trouble finding a job in this market and their solution is to go back to school and get another degree. But to what end?
It surely seems that all degrees are resulting in ridiculous amounts of debt, questionable assumptions, and no guarantees. So is it really worth it?
You start out full steam ahead, inspired, driven, excited about a new idea, business, diet, workout, etc. You’re ready to do it, take on the world and prove yourself, once and for all. You’re ready to START.
That first day, you do it all, just like you’re supposed to. You’re proud of yourself. It was hard, challenging, but you accomplished your goal for that day and you drift off to sleep satisfied. The problems start the following day…
You start to think… “Well I did it yesterday and I’m so tired. I could take this day off and start up again tomorrow. I should ease into it right? Start slow? Maybe this isn’t the right time to be doing this?”
EVERY EXCUSE IN THE BOOK.
And all of a sudden, just like that, you’ve stopped. You quit and you convinced yourself it was ok to do so.
The simple fact is that if you want real change, if you want to be amazing, it takes hard work and it’s not pretty. Everyday you have to convince yourself to START. You have to have that same enthusiasm, excitement, and belief in what you’re doing.
In essence it is a one step process, where you have to start and start and start again. The question becomes, do you really want it?
I’m about to drift off to sleep. I’m exhausted and looking forward to a night’s rest, and then all of a sudden, out of nowhere, I have a brilliant idea or a stroke of insight and my entire night is ruined.
Has that ever happened to you? Because it has happened to me plenty and I’ve always wondered why!
To satiate my curiosity, I did some research into the subject.
In the simplest of terms, this happens because it is necessary for our brains to be in a relaxed state for us to come up with insights and unique ideas about something we are dealing with or a problem we are facing in life.
Usually when we are trying to solve a problem, we focus all of our attention on that, which is handled by the left brain. In the end, we tend to not come up with anything because we are actively looking for that solution.
On the other hand, when your brain is in a relaxed state, such as when you’re in the shower or just getting to bed (damn you!), you are accessing your right brain, which brings about these insights and ideas that are otherwise hidden from you.
Again, this is a very basic explanation and you can check out more research about it here, but at least now we all know why this happens.
I used to love infographics, when I first discovered them. The whole idea of data visualization was intriguing and exciting. My nostalgia didn’t last long though.
The problem is infographics tread the fine line between good design and making information more accessible, keyword more, not less.
Unfortunately, most infographics nowadays are either visually pleasing, but you have no idea what information they are conveying OR you may as well be reading the information in a report instead of an infuriatingly long image (who made this the standard anyways?!).
So I completely agree with the sentiment over at Honest Ape:
There’s a way to make information visualization valuable and some infographics still do, but most seem to have lost their way.
It may sound silly, but TV is ruining your life. Instead of being amazing, creating, doing work that matters, we resort to watching re-runs of How I Met Your Mother or the latest movie on Netflix or Sportscenter on repeat.
Next time you find yourself getting set for another TV watching marathon, just think about what you could be doing instead.